I want to congratulate you on asking why you don’t get what you want! This is a great start, and it will help you move toward everything you want. By asking the question, “Why do I never get what I want?”, you are challenging the cultural premise that says, “I don’t deserve it,” or “I should be content with the mediocre life that I have,” or “only smart/rich/genius people deserve that stuff.” You should have everything you want! You should feel good! You do deserve good things! And you have acknowledged that what you’ve been doing so far isn’t working, which means that you are open to suggestions about what will work. This puts you ahead of at least 75% of the human population. Welcome to the leading edge!
Think about it: If you think “I can’t,” before you say “because,” you’re already giving away all of your power.
And the more words you add after that “because,” the faster your power is fleeing from you.
So stop saying “I can’t.” Because if you do, what happens is that whatever it is that you want to achieve—whether it be to improve your writing style or start a business—you give up on.
If you want something, then you are always aware of its absence. Abraham says in this short video, “Every subject is really two subjects.” The first subject is the problem, which is the lack of what you want. For instance, the lack of money — and there is the solution, which is what you want — more money.
Jealousy is a colossal waste of time and energy. Worse, it keeps you from getting what you want, because if you get rich, a great-looking body, or a relationship that curls your toes – you’re going to look a whole lot like the very people you hate. And then what are you going to do? Hate yourself? That’s pretty messed up!
Here’s the truth: if you want something in life, all the success in the world won’t help if you don’t believe in yourself. You have to believe in yourself first before anyone else can see it or get excited about it.
The key to being happy is not being jealous of other people who have what you want. It means focusing on yourself – on your own happiness, on your own accomplishments. It means learning from your mistakes instead of blaming them on others – because if someone else has what we want, it doesn’t mean that we don’t deserve it for ourselves!
Sometimes I think it’s easy to forget how much dreaming, reading, and talking can help you figure stuff out. But the truth is that all of those things are only part of the picture.
The real work is getting started! It’s taking action on your dreams and seeing them through.
I know that sounds really scary, but if you’ve got the right people in your corner, they will help you figure out what needs to be done and how you can do it.